2 things to do when you are feeling Burn Out!

2 things to do when you are feeling Burn Out!
First of all, let's get clear on the signs of burnout.  

Are you experiencing these?
  • Emotional exhaustion: Fatigue for caring too much for too long.
  • Depersonalization: nothing left to give to anyone
  • Decreased sense of accomplishment: an unconquerable sense of futility like nothing you do makes any difference

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My Book List from 2021

My Book List from 2021
In 2021, I was completing my Parent Coach certification and diving deep into my own human experience.  I got really curious about being able to sit in the unknowing and being with 'what is'.  Having a beginner mind and going round and round with self doubt as I tried new things was very scary, but these books opened my eyes in new ways.


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Why you need a Safe Place in Parenting

Why you need a Safe Place in Parenting
Let's talk about why I have to establish safety everywhere I go.  

As a child of an alcoholic, life was uncertain, even a bit chaotic.  Then, you throw in 5 kids and a mom that was just keeping her head above water and it's a recipe for childhood trauma.

I didn't know what to expect from my parent's behaviors and I didn't feel safe at times.  That feeling carried into adulthood.  I can be hyper vigilant at times and take a long time to trust people.  As a child, I looked like a deer in the headlights trying to take it all in and I was labeled as very shy.

When I left for college, I knew I needed strategies to be able to accomplish my dreams and stay self regulated. I found my yoga practice and on my mat, I felt a sense of safety.  I was excited to be able to bring my mat with me, carrying this feeling of certainty wherever I traveled.

Now, as a mom, I don't always have the option to roll out my mat.  I've developed this feeling of safety within.  It has taken years and years of practice and you know what, I'm still not perfect.

When I do feel threatened by my children's behavior and I forget to go inward to find my safety, I then have to send myself some loving kindness.  After all, we are all a work in progress, right?

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The mixed emotions of leaving my children to go on a trip

The mixed emotions of leaving my children to go on a trip
It took me 9 years of parenthood to plan a trip on my own.  My friends and I hadn't seen each other in 11 years because....well...life!

A mixture of emotions flooded me that week and upon return--relief, gratitude, exhaustion, joy, excitement, sadness, anxiety, worry, and on and on.

I felt alive in all the possible ways.

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How I get past the 'what ifs' to enjoy the moment

How I get past the 'what ifs' to enjoy the moment
With each change in life, it’s become easier to enjoy the pause. I still have to check in with myself and my own needs.  And now that my kids are involved, I have to ask myself if my concern is my own or that of my children.
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