Father's Day

Joy is my job during times of overwhelm

06/23/2020 07:00 AM Central
cultivating joy, Father's Day, grief, mindfulness, mindset shift
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Since I can remember, I've been an over thinker, worrier, busybody, observer, and curious human being.

I was a nail biter as a child.
I couldn't fall asleep with any noise (tv, music, people talking).
I often needed touch or distraction to relax. My best friend and I would massage and play pictionary on each other's backs to fall asleep.
The way that I learned to calm myself and self regulate was to be outside in nature.
I loved being in the trees, hiding in the brush, or swimming in the pond.

To this day, every bit of my mind, body, and soul needs time 'with' nature.

Notice my choice of saying 'with nature' rather than 'in nature.'

On this Father's Day, I reflect on how my dad was a model for my mindfulness practice. He enjoyed being 'with nature.' He showed us how to pay attention and how to feel your surroundings in your body. We enjoyed our experiences 'with nature' with our full bodies (all of our senses.) We were totally present!!

So, here is where we get to the adult section of this blog post.  You're saying to yourself, "That sounds amazing as a child" or "Well, I don't have time to do that very often."

Just a bit of advice about being mindful throughout the day.  Watch my video explanation.
You don't have to have a specific meditation time and space. 
All you need is awareness and gratitude! All you need is Love, do, do, do, do, do.
Focus on the things that bring joy to your soul. 
Wash, Rinse, Repeat as often as you can so that it becomes daily habit.

Thank you to my dad for helping cultivate this and the importance of nature to my well-being. Without this, I would be struggling so much (or more than I already do.) 

On this 2nd Father's Day since my dad lost his battle with lung cancer, I choose to focus on the Joy that we shared together!  I choose to take the time to cultivate joyful experiences for myself.  (Disclaimer: This by no means that I don't allow myself time for sadness.)

Joy is my job during times of overwhelm.

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Meet Tanya Milano Snell

Becoming a wife and mother was so exciting for me. I had so much love to give and I strived to always find solutions to life's bumps in the road. From cloth diapering to buying as much organic or local food as we could I was trying to keep us as healthy as possible. I found products that I liked at online stores and corporations, big box stores, local shops, and local farms.....you name it, I was using it all and it was complicated. I also stressed the importance of self care so my husband and I can be there for our kids and for our community, but there just never seemed much time for this.

So, then came a series of traumatic events in our life. First, the death of my mother in law after a long illness followed 2 years later with the death of both of my parents from cancer. Having 2 young kids (one of which was diagnosed with asthma) and navigating this time in our lives was nothing short of a miracle. We have so many friends and family to thank for this! We were maintaining self care (honestly, my yoga practice was crucial) and healthy living as best we could given our circumstances or at least that's what I thought.

In the summer of 2018, my husband was hospitalized with severe gastrointestinal problems. After a week in the hospital, we received a diagnosis of Crohns disease. On the day of his release from the hospital, I was a mess. My body and mind had HAD enough. I didn't know how we were going to manage all of these changes. I cried all day!! I felt like I couldn't be strong for the one person that was strong through all of our battles so far. In the next few months, we had new food to buy, new supplements, new medical bills, and the list goes on. I was having daily headaches, irregular bowel movements, and increased anxiety. Bills and shopping were so hard to keep up with. It was time to make some decisions for the whole family.

I realized that staying in the teaching field was unsustainable to my well-being and detrimental to my family's well-being. I chose to really listen to my intuition, strengthen the practices that help me listen, and follow the path that I was being led to follow. Leading and living from the heart was the only option. My love for what yoga does for my mind, body, and soul was the missing piece to my puzzle on how to make all my passions and dreams a reality.

Today, I have much less stress because I have developed a self awareness that keeps me from self abandonment (SacredSeat and SafeSeat practices). I sleep better. I have much fewer headaches and muscle pains. My anxiety is managed and I worry less about providing what my family needs for proper nutrition. And best of all, I now have a self care routine so that I can be there for my family and their needs. I also have more time for the things that I enjoy doing like reading, playing outside, and family time.

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