4 ways to stop shaming yourself in your life!

4 ways to stop shaming yourself in your life!
Do you have a voice in your head that tells you things like: You'll never get this right. What's wrong with you? You're too sensitive, no wonder no one likes you.

Well, first of all, I'm sorry to hear that—no one should have to deal with a voice like that! 

But if you're struggling with unkind or self-depricating thoughts and wondering why they seem so persistent, then read on. 

Can you really listen with your HEART?

Can you really listen with your HEART?
Happy Worm Moon!

March 13th was the New Moon and a time to set intentions and welcome new beginnings.  

Watch this video for an awareness practice and some of my intentions moving forward!!  Some big announcements in the video!!

One of the announcements is that I'm working on a workshop for Compassionate Listening.  
Here's a 6 minute video with a demo on what to expect in the workshops!

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How to help our children with fear

How to help our children with fear
There's a fine line between scaring our kids and allowing them to build resiliency.  

First, a story.
I took a group of kids from a nearby school on a mindful leaf hunt.  At one point, I stopped to offer a silent walk.  The task was given to take turns walking at a time spaced about 100 feet apart.  I went first and employed a student leader to send the next.  See, at this school, the kids are trusted and their leadership skills are developed.

It was a straight shot in the trail, but along a creek and surrounded with trees so there was little visibility.  However, I could see the majority of the group as I looked back.

The kids were reminded to use our mindful senses of breathing, listening, and feeling the ground beneath them.  I was promptly told that this is not a 'silent' walk, there are sounds all around.  Well, geez, kids are amazing creatures!!

Well, as we reflected, I was taught some valuable lessons that day!  Kids are not trusted enough AND we are building fear within them.

These are the things that they told me when asked about feelings that arose.
"I felt proud because I felt like an adult."
"I felt scared because I'm not used to being alone."
"I felt worried because other (younger) kids were left behind."
"I felt happy to be walking in the woods."
Everyone's feelings were valid and we learned so much that day!

They are capable.  They can do scary things.

Some things I learned this week about allowing our kids to work through fear.

1. If they are not given any opportunities to experience fear, they will not be able to experience growth.

We often shelter our children from situations that will cause them discomfort in some way.  What if you gave them an age appropriate task and told them, "I trust that you can do this?"
Does this show them that you are scared?  Does it show them that they are not trusted?
No, it gives them confidence.

As they go about the task, they feel capable. They feel proud.  If they reach a stumble or a moment of self-doubt, they have your encouraging words, "I trust you."  They start to trust themselves.

2. Processing strong emotions shows that it's ok to feel all the feels.  

When a stumbling block arises or a fear arises, let's discuss that.  Ask, "what did you feel as you finished your task?"  Try not to judge or give your own projections.  Just be a listening ear.  It will amaze you at what kids come up with.  End the conversation by seeing if they have a new strategy for dealing with the fear next time.  Something that may help them face it head on.


Your adult children will thank you!

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If you need help navigating your own fears, please hop on over to my Facebook group where we share stories of loss, fear, big changes, and big emotions.

Day ONE of the Break THRU Boredom Family Challenge: Setting Intention

Day ONE of the Break THRU Boredom Family Challenge: Setting Intention
We've officially been on stay at home order for protection from the Covid-19 virus for 5 weeks.  The honeymoon is over!!!!  

At first, our family took a little break from structure and scheduling, then tried some structure and scheduling, and now we've run out of ideas and need some novelty.  

Over the next 5 days, I will post a theme play day for you and your family to try throughout the week.  It will have a set theme and include an affirmation, an invitation to play, snack ideas and an interactive read aloud or yoga sequence for the day. An affirmation will reset the mind and set an intention for the week. An invitation to play will allow a way for the family to bond and find joy in the power of play.  Hopefully , your child(ren) will replay the scenario throughout the week and make it more complex each day.  The snack and interactive activity also adds creativity and inspiration for playing out the theme.  Comment daily to share photos or experiences as we reset our families together!!

What is an affirmation? 
Positive affirmations are simple sentences that people use to describe how they want to be, or how they want their circumstances to be, in a way that affirms that it’s already true, or on its way to becoming true. People repeat positive affirmations in order to change the way they feel about themselves, or their perception of their circumstances, so that eventually they arrive to the change that the affirmation is supposed to lead them.

A family that plays together stays together!
This image highlights the importance of play for the brain, stress management, relationships, and overall wellness.

A connection to nature reduces stress and anxiety as it engages all of the senses.

What exactly are Invitations to Play?
This term is used a lot by Early Childhood Educators and is deeply rooted in the Reggio philosophy of allowing children to direct their own play by offering open-ended, meaningful resources to explore. It simply describes a little set up of play materials for your child to come and discover and play with in any way that they choose. It can be as simple as setting out the tea set and play food on a little table with napkins, bringing out the building blocks and setting them on the grass or presenting the child with an unusual object for investigation. Most of the time, by placing toys or materials in a new location or presenting them in an original way, the child’s imagination is sparked and they can come to it with fresh eyes and new ideas! 

My goal for the Family Mindset series is for you to find some fresh ideas and set some intentions for your family to grow a positive mindset together.  Please join us!  

Find the 5 Day Break THRU Boredom challenge in my facebook community too!  That's where you can participate for prizes and get more free trainings.

If you like this blog, you may also like this Free Guide: 5 Ways to Reduce Childhood Stress and Anxiety.