Blog Category: parent coaching

Are you struggling with listening to your heart in parenting?

Mar 3, 2022 10:52 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
family mindset, love yourself, parent coaching, reparenting ourselves
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I recently picked up Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown and quickly realized that it's exactly the kind of book that I love! Getting to know emotions and human behavior so that I can know myself more in parenting and create space for my children to know themselves.

Why you need a Safe Place in Parenting

Feb 4, 2022 11:44 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
parent coaching, reparenting ourselves, stress and anxiety, yoga
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Let's talk about why I have to establish safety everywhere I go.

As a child of an alcoholic, life was uncertain, even a bit chaotic. Then, you throw in 5 kids and a mom that was just keeping her head above water and it's a recipe for childhood trauma.

I didn't know what to expect from my parent's behaviors and I didn't feel safe at times. That feeling carried into adulthood. I can be hyper vigilant at times and take a long time to trust people. As a child, I looked like a deer in the headlights trying to take it all in and I was labeled as very shy.

When I left for college, I knew I needed strategies to be able to accomplish my dreams and stay self regulated. I found my yoga practice and on my mat, I felt a sense of safety. I was excited to be able to bring my mat with me, carrying this feeling of certainty wherever I traveled.

Now, as a mom, I don't always have the option to roll out my mat. I've developed this feeling of safety within. It has taken years and years of practice and you know what, I'm still not perfect.

When I do feel threatened by my children's behavior and I forget to go inward to find my safety, I then have to send myself some loving kindness. After all, we are all a work in progress, right?

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Simplify your Parenting by Setting Healthy Boundaries

Jan 27, 2022 10:00 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
family mindset, parent coaching, reparenting ourselves
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I was no longer living in the moment and in the things that I loved. I was resentful and angry because I hadn't been treating myself the way I wanted to be treated. It was time to make some changes.

How I get past the 'what ifs' to enjoy the moment

Sep 3, 2021 11:23 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
motherless daughters, parent coaching, reparenting ourselves, stress and anxiety
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With each change in life, it’s become easier to enjoy the pause. I still have to check in with myself and my own needs. And now that my kids are involved, I have to ask myself if my concern is my own or that of my children.

Meet Tanya Milano Snell

Becoming a wife and mother was so exciting for me. I had so much love to give and I strived to always find solutions to life's bumps in the road. From cloth diapering to buying as much organic or local food as we could I was trying to keep us as healthy as possible. I found products that I liked at online stores and corporations, big box stores, local shops, and local farms.....you name it, I was using it all and it was complicated. I also stressed the importance of self care so my husband and I can be there for our kids and for our community, but there just never seemed much time for this.

So, then came a series of traumatic events in our life. First, the death of my mother in law after a long illness followed 2 years later with the death of both of my parents from cancer. Having 2 young kids (one of which was diagnosed with asthma) and navigating this time in our lives was nothing short of a miracle. We have so many friends and family to thank for this! We were maintaining self care (honestly, my yoga practice was crucial) and healthy living as best we could given our circumstances or at least that's what I thought.

In the summer of 2018, my husband was hospitalized with severe gastrointestinal problems. After a week in the hospital, we received a diagnosis of Crohns disease. On the day of his release from the hospital, I was a mess. My body and mind had HAD enough. I didn't know how we were going to manage all of these changes. I cried all day!! I felt like I couldn't be strong for the one person that was strong through all of our battles so far. In the next few months, we had new food to buy, new supplements, new medical bills, and the list goes on. I was having daily headaches, irregular bowel movements, and increased anxiety. Bills and shopping were so hard to keep up with. It was time to make some decisions for the whole family.

I realized that staying in the teaching field was unsustainable to my well-being and detrimental to my family's well-being. I chose to really listen to my intuition, strengthen the practices that help me listen, and follow the path that I was being led to follow. Leading and living from the heart was the only option. My love for what yoga does for my mind, body, and soul was the missing piece to my puzzle on how to make all my passions and dreams a reality.

Today, I have much less stress because I have a place for one stop shopping (did I mention that I really don't like shopping?) to get everything that my family needs to live a healthy life. I sleep better. I have much fewer headaches and muscle pains. My anxiety is managed and I worry less about providing what my family needs for proper nutrition. And best of all, I now have a self care routine (teaching yoga!) so that I can be there for my family and their needs. I also have more time for the things that I enjoy doing like cooking, playing outside, and family time.

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