Blog Category: family mindset

Why Gratitude is the Best Attitude Even Through Difficult Emotions

Nov 24, 2021 11:06 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
family mindset, Gratitude, grief
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Grief really is a journey and feeling all of the emotions is the only way to keep on moving forward.

So, I stopped and felt the emotions for a minute sending those tender feelings some kindness. And, I felt loved. I felt enough in that moment. Grateful for the love that I can still feel from my mom.

3 Important Ways to say Goodbye to a Home

Aug 26, 2021 06:12 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
after goodbye, emotion coaching, family mindset, stress and anxiety
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I spent a few weeks really enjoying some of our favorite things to do in this home and the surrounding area with the intention of seeing them through the eyes of gratitude. The walks out my door were spent grounding into the energy and connecting with all the parts of my 5 and a half year experience.

I felt really good with letting go and detaching my energy from this location until I was in the middle of packing. It was the day before we were to leave. The house was almost empty. That’s when the tears started flowing.

How Self Awareness is important to Family Values

Jul 11, 2021 02:54 PM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
benefits of play, family mindset, reparenting ourselves, stress and anxiety
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Tapping into your core values as a family requires that you develop some deep self awareness. We have this ideal or fantasy of what our family will be or should be. Based on our own lack from growing up, we strive to fill in this gap.

I just miss my LITTLE boy! OK!

May 14, 2021 11:29 AM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
childhood anxiety, coaching, family mindset, mindset shift
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I teared up today when I watched my son walk into school. He looked back at me and waved and then proceeded confidently into the building.

In that moment, I was flooded with emotion. It was so unexpected.

After a year being with him as a homeschooled mom, I was more than ready for him to go to school. I had a lot of projects that I was excited to work on. I was moving into my own purpose as a work at home mom and playing and enriching his day was no longer high up on my list of priorities.

He was so motivated to see friends and play with new toys. He was proud of his school projects and it didn't take me much effort to get him ready and out the door to school. I had been pleasantly surprised and honestly had prepared myself for hard mornings. He wasn't having any hard mornings!

So, why am I having these strong feelings as I watch him independently leave ME?! I mean, I was a teacher for years and watched countless parents in this same struggle.

Suddenly, I'm watching my almost 5 year old just nonchalantly walking away. All the internal dialogue begins.

"He doesn't need me anymore."

"He shouldn't have to grow up so soon."

"I'm doing the wrong thing going back to work."

"Should I change his schedule so he's not gone so much."

The thing is...when I tapped into my heart, it really was that I just missed my baby!! I want this time to slow down and I want to enjoy time with him.

It was OK to miss him AND it's OK to be sad.

Now, here's what I can do in this moment of emotion to shift this internal dialogue. I still want him to go to school and I still want to work on my passion and purpose. We will spend some special time together. We love to hike and bike together.

It was time to plan a Mother/Son outing!!

None of this scenario was about my son. It was all about what I can do to tap into my heart and lead motherhood from a place of internal wisdom. I have to feel the longing to rise above it and find the joy in it.

It's that simple. Feel it all.

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How to build a better relationship with your Mom when she's not there for you

May 6, 2021 01:24 PM Central
Tanya Milano Snell
coaching, family mindset, mindfulness, trauma healing
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For years, I wanted nothing to do with being my mom. I was determined to not be my mom. I was going to be a more balanced and gentle mom. A mom that saw her children for all of their weaknesses and not just their strengths.

Then, I suddenly recognized her voice and behaviors in me. People started telling me all of the time that I look like her too. I was being critical of my children and nagging. I was flying off the handle when I didn't get what I wanted. I was taking it personally when my kids didn't like something that I liked.

I had organized my life around not doing those things. Why was I doing just the things that I didn't want to do?

I knew there was something more than just practicing yoga, eating healthy, and reading positive discipline books. Even my husband was telling me, 'why can't you practice what you preach.'

The question I asked myself was:

How do we break through unconscious limiting beliefs when we don't even know what they are?

Trying to define yourself is like biting your own teeth --Alan Watts

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Meet Tanya Milano Snell

Becoming a wife and mother was so exciting for me. I had so much love to give and I strived to always find solutions to life's bumps in the road. From cloth diapering to buying as much organic or local food as we could I was trying to keep us as healthy as possible. I found products that I liked at online stores and corporations, big box stores, local shops, and local farms.....you name it, I was using it all and it was complicated. I also stressed the importance of self care so my husband and I can be there for our kids and for our community, but there just never seemed much time for this.

So, then came a series of traumatic events in our life. First, the death of my mother in law after a long illness followed 2 years later with the death of both of my parents from cancer. Having 2 young kids (one of which was diagnosed with asthma) and navigating this time in our lives was nothing short of a miracle. We have so many friends and family to thank for this! We were maintaining self care (honestly, my yoga practice was crucial) and healthy living as best we could given our circumstances or at least that's what I thought.

In the summer of 2018, my husband was hospitalized with severe gastrointestinal problems. After a week in the hospital, we received a diagnosis of Crohns disease. On the day of his release from the hospital, I was a mess. My body and mind had HAD enough. I didn't know how we were going to manage all of these changes. I cried all day!! I felt like I couldn't be strong for the one person that was strong through all of our battles so far. In the next few months, we had new food to buy, new supplements, new medical bills, and the list goes on. I was having daily headaches, irregular bowel movements, and increased anxiety. Bills and shopping were so hard to keep up with. It was time to make some decisions for the whole family.

I realized that staying in the teaching field was unsustainable to my well-being and detrimental to my family's well-being. I chose to really listen to my intuition, strengthen the practices that help me listen, and follow the path that I was being led to follow. Leading and living from the heart was the only option. My love for what yoga does for my mind, body, and soul was the missing piece to my puzzle on how to make all my passions and dreams a reality.

Today, I have much less stress because I have a place for one stop shopping (did I mention that I really don't like shopping?) to get everything that my family needs to live a healthy life. I sleep better. I have much fewer headaches and muscle pains. My anxiety is managed and I worry less about providing what my family needs for proper nutrition. And best of all, I now have a self care routine (teaching yoga!) so that I can be there for my family and their needs. I also have more time for the things that I enjoy doing like cooking, playing outside, and family time.

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